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I’ve been rebuilding myself with love and dedication, and it has been the most beautiful, powerful, painful, ugly experience of my life.
Here are 10 major lessons I learned while recovering from an abusive situation I got myself into at 22 years old:
Read MoreIn the beginning, everything was fine. I was motivated to make the best of the situation, we were saving $$$ for our dreams, and I was building my dream business.
And then... things started slipping through the cracks.
Read MoreWhat I’ve realized is that so much of the coaching world is built on fraud. Shady scammy frustrating marketing tactics that feed on people in the most vulnerable points of their lives.
The hardest thing for me to face through everything going on was that I was a part of the coaching scam cycle.
Read MoreI get this feeling a lot in the spring- when the rainy days take over and it’s hard to believe 80+ degrees and non-stop sun are just around the corner. Add the frustration and doubt of a flopped launch in my business, and I’m pacing around the apartment wondering what I can possibly do with myself. Should I just keep poking my failure with a stick? What now?
Here’s what I learned about self-love on a rainy day.
Read MoreIt’s been a wild and fantastic year!! Many celebrations were had, and many mistakes were made and learned from! But one stands out that I need to correct with YOU! Basically, I got super excited about a lot of the business skills and strategy I was learning this past year, and some of it seriously went to my head. I tried to do something I never wanted to do in the first place, and it bit me in the ass. And I’m glad it did!!
Lilacs in Paradise is going back to her roots- and I hope you’ll come along! Here’s why… & what you can expect:
Read MoreWhen you first begin to set boundaries, every decision and thought begins to feel like a little more effort. For me, it was scary and exhausting at first. Then it became exciting, it was a little bit of a rush! Every time I set a boundary and there was no push-back or lashing out, my brain would buzz with the excitement of becoming my own person with my own energetic space in life.
Read MoreHere’s the big secret to my fresh perspective on life! I’m going to elaborate on this Entire-Freakin-Life Reset in the coming weeks and share practical tips for what I did to get my business together and prepare for the new flood of clients and opportunities that hit me suddenly, but I want to share the most important shift with you today and explain how you can recreate it for yourself (even if you’re not a VA working for an awesome business consultant).
Read MoreI shared a vulnerable video to Facebook before my annual wellness visit and pap smear this morning, but there are some details I wanted to get into that I think are better covered in writing. My intention is for this post to be helpful to all women- because honestly pap smears are never fun. They are super uncomfortable- and I remember dreading them even before I ever experienced a miscarriage or the trauma of rape.
Read MoreOne thing I’ve been really shocked by as an adult is how oblivious much of the middle class is to true poverty and what it’s like to be poor. People think not being able to afford a family vacation one year is poverty (never mind the fact that they spent their vacation money on a shiny two-year-old pickup or a cabin a few hours north for vacations). I wasn’t that kind of poor.
Read MoreThere may be massive realizations and moments where the clouds part along the way to embracing yourself, but self-love is kinda like a combination of a roller coaster and an upward spiral. It’s a consistent change over time- and I mean consistent in the long run. It’s a practice, not a revelation.
Read MoreActually, I haven’t tried “real jobs” online, I’ve spent hundreds of hours searching for and applying for legitimate part- and full-time jobs online, but I never heard back from any of them, or the ones I did hear back from came off as super scammy and I didn’t pursue it. I’m amazing at getting new jobs, so this just made me feel like maybe the market isn’t as far along online as we thought. Who knows.
Annnyway, I’ll include links where I can with these. There’s only one company I felt was truly rotten, and I’m going to be super blunt with you about it because I do not want you to have the same experience!
Read MoreFor anyone who doesn’t know, cystic fibrosis is a genetic disorder of the pancreas that basically causes all of the mucus linings in the body (especially the lungs and digestive system) to be super thick and sticky. It makes our lungs a stellar breading ground for bacteria and other infections, and makes things like sinus infections and the common cold potentially life-threatening.
Here’s a look inside my daily life with cystic fibrosis.
Read MoreAs humans, we naturally long to belong and feel safe and loved from the day we are born… but is it possible that in receiving that love, we actually end up staying small in life?
I don’t believe the people who love us most in the world hold us back intentionally, but I think sometimes the subconscious fear of losing that loving support causes us to play it small in life. We want to be liked. We need it. We need to feel loved, and our diligent ego is here to protect us from the kind of pain that comes with rejection and loneliness…
Read MoreToday I’m here just to share my heart a little bit.
2018 was a year of transformation and breaking down walls, limiting beliefs, and old thought patterns. Early 2019 has been the continued unfolding and cleaning up of the aftermath from all of that transformation and while it has been amazing, it has also been difficult on an emotional level.
People who were once up on pedestals as my greatest heroes have become mere human beings. People who were the worst people I knew also became mere human beings. I became a mere human being, and then a goddess, and then learned to embrace both at once. Then people who were the worst I’ve ever known became goddesses as well and I did NOT know what to do with that.
Read MoreHere’s what happened to my goals once I made that big decision to change with the new year…
They puttered out in, like, 3 weeks. Not even kidding. Like I mentioned, my last blog post goes into detail but basically I was already feeling hopeless toward the end of January!! I took so many steps back and I was beating myself up for falling right back into that downer old mindset and self-criticism pattern.
And then I actually decided to allow myself to take those steps back and just own them. Guess what happened…
Read MoreHonestly, I’ve been a disconnected mess for the past few months, and I want to share it with you in the hopes that it might ease your burden, or at least bring us a little closer as I share another vulnerable piece of myself with you.
I’ve been hurting a lot inside, especially the past couple weeks, and today I’m finally feeling like myself again. Not like another wave on the roller coaster, but finally truly at home in my own heart again.
I didn’t notice myself slipping back into depression, until it turned into anxiety about two weeks ago. I had my first panic attack, and then my next 10 immediately after.
Read MoreI want to share my top traffic driving tip with you guys today! This is the first thing I share with my business and blog coaching clients- and I’m giving it away for free today because honestly it is SO easy to do, and it’s information everyone should have access to.
Read MoreHere’s what I wish I’d known before I tortured myself at the beginning of my entrepreneurial journey. I didn’t understand the value of community or what it really looks like to build and have an online community of my own. Save yourself the heartache (and the headache) with this insight.
Read MoreI bring my goals to reality and realize my dreams and make incredible friends all by just doing what my instincts tell me to do AND I keep my followers in the loop and consistently share content that is high-vibe, super aligned with my message and the woman I want to be in life, and I get to also just rest easy knowing that I am being exactly who I am and not adding unfair pressure to myself.
Read MoreGenerally, a life coach is someone who helps you create and work toward specific life goals by teaching you new perspectives and techniques, helping you work through subconscious blocks on the road to success, and someone who helps hold you accountable for following through.
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