Today we’re getting a little more blunt & abrasive than usual, and for good reason. You’ve been stuck, bored, afraid, and unsure for long enough, damn it! It’s time to start making a change, having an impact, and enjoying your actual life.
It’s actually super simple! It’s an easy way to embrace the moment and unlock the prison fear has created in your mind.
For some crazy reason, we like to keep ourselves busy with an abundance of little problems and challenges. Sometimes, if things are working out in our favor too much, our doubts and our ego step in to create some new friction in life to keep us from getting too comfortable.
This is such an amazing topic for the autumn season, because autumn itself is a perfect representation of abundance and grief creating something incredible. The changing and falling of the leaves, the abundance of those final fall harvests, joggers out soaking in the final days of pre-winter weather, the loss of summer, but the beginning of all things cozy…
(Attainable Goals) For me, this means not setting lifestyle-change goals and expecting to quit something I love cold turkey and take on a challenging new habit 100% from day 1. The way I balance challenging myself and staying inspired, while also not setting myself up for failure is by having TWO goals. I have my main goal, and then I set a stretch goal.
I am a firm believer that we are all one in that we each have a core state of being that is nothing but pure love and expansiveness.
The real struggle is peeling away the layers to let your true expansive self shine through.
One of my favorite things about fall is what a perfect time it is for self-care. If you keep busy in the summer and fall, preparing for the shock of being indoors more throughout the winter sometimes needs to include reconnecting with yourself.
Those inner voices get louder when we feel isolated and as someone who experiences seasonal depression, I know all too well how brutally isolating the frozen months can be!
Whether the majority of our days tend to be mediocre and unexciting or generally a little gloomy… or whether you find a hint of a smile and a subtle skip in your step on a daily basis is learned!
Sometimes fear shows up in disguise as self-sabotage, procrastination, laziness, unexplained exhaustion, or perfectionism… This tip will help you work through and overcome fear in any form.
Absolutely everything could be in our favor in life, and we could still be miserable by choice… and absolutely everything could be working against us in life, and we could still be joyful by choice.
So what is the truth?
So you’re feeling stuck? I know the struggle… I want to teach you about extrapolating a decision today. This is something I do all. the. time. when I can’t choose between two options and I feel like there are overwhelming downsides to every option (or they are both freakin’ awesome and I don’t know which is better).
I haven’t always been confident, and I didn’t even really notice that I’d gotten more confident until this kind lady pointed it out. In the past three years, my confidence has exploded. I’m sure some of it just has to do with life experience, but I can think of a few things I’ve done or realized that probably had a lot to do with the sudden change. Let me tell you about it.
In case you aren’t already familiar with the concept of resistance, I want to fill you in! Resistance is friction in life. It’s anything tough, annoying, different, uncomfortable… It’s anything that rubs you wrong or bothers you or scares you.
Here’s how to work through that.
At first I resisted it SO HARD. “Don’t be a feminazi,” some rotten little voice in my head would mutter when I’d start to let my anger out. And back into the box it would go- because I wouldn’t want to be a bitch. or a feminazi. or a psychopath. or something. Right? Because I was “too much” and I needed to “chill.”
I didn’t earn my entire degree at once. I took a year-long break right in the middle… and I’m so glad I did!
This is what I what I wish someone had told me at 17 and 18 years old.
You already know you want to live a passionate life. You already want to stop being a perfectionist and learn to execute your amazing ideas, go with the flow sometimes, pave your own path at times, and have an impact on this world.
Trusting ourselves should be the most natural thing in the world, but the truth is that it can be really difficult. Especially if we believe we’ve been wrong in the past, and even more so if our being wrong ended with pain and regret. (If this is you, take a look at this post where we talk more in-depth about releasing regret.)
I’m going to give you two tools to uncover the truth behind what’s going on. They’ll be most effective if you start with the first one to get in tune with your body and really feel where you are physically, and then dive into the second exercise to open up to the answers your heart already knows (that your self-doubt is drowning out).
Today we’re looking at recognizing resistance in our daily lives so that we can actually process it and choose our next steps consciously, rather than subconsciously sabotaging ourselves and avoiding the resistance. (Which leads to built up emotions, continued frustration, dwindling hopes, and all that other not-so-fun stuck-ness!)
You have the power to tear that belief into a million pieces and replace it with a hot new truth that empowers you, that brings you to life and embraces that powerful and inspiring woman you already ARE instead of pushing her away and denying yourself the opportunity to be her.