Practice LILACS with one specific fear in mind. I challenge you to practice these steps for ONE WEEK and document your results.
As a woman who grew up with all of that, and as someone who has experienced multiple miscarriages, rape, ex-step parents who continue to cause pain in my family, who continues to love addict family members…
And as a woman who has forgiven them all
and, more importantly, as a woman who has forgiven myself,
I’m sharing what forgiveness looks like in my world.
It’s actually super simple! It’s an easy way to embrace the moment and unlock the prison fear has created in your mind.
This is such an amazing topic for the autumn season, because autumn itself is a perfect representation of abundance and grief creating something incredible. The changing and falling of the leaves, the abundance of those final fall harvests, joggers out soaking in the final days of pre-winter weather, the loss of summer, but the beginning of all things cozy…
Have you ever trusted your gut, only to find out later you were completely wrong? It’s hard to come back from that feeling of betrayal and embarrassment when you relied on your intuition and it seemed to fail… but it’s not impossible…
I am a firm believer that we are all one in that we each have a core state of being that is nothing but pure love and expansiveness.
The real struggle is peeling away the layers to let your true expansive self shine through.
Sometimes fear shows up in disguise as self-sabotage, procrastination, laziness, unexplained exhaustion, or perfectionism… This tip will help you work through and overcome fear in any form.
Absolutely everything could be in our favor in life, and we could still be miserable by choice… and absolutely everything could be working against us in life, and we could still be joyful by choice.
So what is the truth?
I haven’t always been confident, and I didn’t even really notice that I’d gotten more confident until this kind lady pointed it out. In the past three years, my confidence has exploded. I’m sure some of it just has to do with life experience, but I can think of a few things I’ve done or realized that probably had a lot to do with the sudden change. Let me tell you about it.
In case you aren’t already familiar with the concept of resistance, I want to fill you in! Resistance is friction in life. It’s anything tough, annoying, different, uncomfortable… It’s anything that rubs you wrong or bothers you or scares you.
Here’s how to work through that.
At first I resisted it SO HARD. “Don’t be a feminazi,” some rotten little voice in my head would mutter when I’d start to let my anger out. And back into the box it would go- because I wouldn’t want to be a bitch. or a feminazi. or a psychopath. or something. Right? Because I was “too much” and I needed to “chill.”
You already know you want to live a passionate life. You already want to stop being a perfectionist and learn to execute your amazing ideas, go with the flow sometimes, pave your own path at times, and have an impact on this world.
Trusting ourselves should be the most natural thing in the world, but the truth is that it can be really difficult. Especially if we believe we’ve been wrong in the past, and even more so if our being wrong ended with pain and regret. (If this is you, take a look at this post where we talk more in-depth about releasing regret.)
I’m going to give you two tools to uncover the truth behind what’s going on. They’ll be most effective if you start with the first one to get in tune with your body and really feel where you are physically, and then dive into the second exercise to open up to the answers your heart already knows (that your self-doubt is drowning out).
Today we’re looking at recognizing resistance in our daily lives so that we can actually process it and choose our next steps consciously, rather than subconsciously sabotaging ourselves and avoiding the resistance. (Which leads to built up emotions, continued frustration, dwindling hopes, and all that other not-so-fun stuck-ness!)
I’d been noticing already how much more challenging it has been lately to share my affection publicly. Vulnerability is usually something that comes easily to me… And my feelings for this wonderful man are still very much alive.
So what happened?
There's a reason storms are named for women. Feminine power is an intimate connection with the divine. It's the ability to feel love and anger at the same time. To feel any number of things at the same time. To move mountains- maybe not physical ones but the massive emotional ones that crush the unprepared and leave many in feelings of hopelessness. To embrace feminine power is to embrace the power to ignite feelings of love and passion and devotion in anyone- just by expressing the truth in your own heart and soul. It is to understand, forgive, and love oneself knowing all vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and shortcomings.
The Law of Attraction, in this application, is the idea that the energy we give off attracts the same level energy back to us. So when we are resentful, fearful, and restrictive, we attract restrictive energy into our life- in many forms.
However, when we are living in light and love, existing completely in a space of expansiveness and joy and abundance, we attract that same expansiveness back into our lives.