I haven’t always been confident, and I didn’t even really notice that I’d gotten more confident until this kind lady pointed it out. In the past three years, my confidence has exploded. I’m sure some of it just has to do with life experience, but I can think of a few things I’ve done or realized that probably had a lot to do with the sudden change. Let me tell you about it.

Why I started Blogging (& How You Can Do It Too)

This is the story of Lilacs in Paradise.

I first wanted to be a blogger when I ended up in the hospital at 17 years old. I’d been working as a care giver in a nursing home and I caught a lung infection (which is a big deal! For those of you who don’t know me, I have cystic fibrosis and with CF, a cold or lung infection can be deadly!)

#metoo | One Woman's Thoughts on Feminism, Rape, and Bras.

#metoo | One Woman's Thoughts on Feminism, Rape, and Bras.

At first I resisted it SO HARD. “Don’t be a feminazi,” some rotten little voice in my head would mutter when I’d start to let my anger out. And back into the box it would go- because I wouldn’t want to be a bitch. or a feminazi. or a psychopath. or something. Right? Because I was “too much” and I needed to “chill.”

How to Trust Yourself (even if you struggle to trust others)

Trusting ourselves should be the most natural thing in the world, but the truth is that it can be really difficult. Especially if we believe we’ve been wrong in the past, and even more so if our being wrong ended with pain and regret. (If this is you, take a look at this post where we talk more in-depth about releasing regret.)

How to Tell if a Feeling is Genuine (or if it’s a mask!)

I’m going to give you two tools to uncover the truth behind what’s going on. They’ll be most effective if you start with the first one to get in tune with your body and really feel where you are physically, and then dive into the second exercise to open up to the answers your heart already knows (that your self-doubt is drowning out).

How to Recognize Resistance in Your Life and Turn It Into Progress

Today we’re looking at recognizing resistance in our daily lives so that we can actually process it and choose our next steps consciously, rather than subconsciously sabotaging ourselves and avoiding the resistance. (Which leads to built up emotions, continued frustration, dwindling hopes, and all that other not-so-fun stuck-ness!)

When you can't talk about your problems...

When you can't talk about your problems...

Do you ever hesitate to let your partner know you’re having a difficult time?
Do you always hesitate to let your partner know?
Do you feel guilty for sharing your struggles with others?

I’m here to tell you that you are not a burden, and sharing your struggles with a loved one is not a selfish act.

The only time it is selfish is when you’re sharing to spread negativity- when you share the burden with the intent of having some company in your misery. And not just having company while you are miserable, because of course when we are hurting we long for comfort… It’s selfish to share your misery with the intention of actually creating misery in someone else’s life. That’s it. That’s when it’s selfish.

The rest of the time? Sharing your burden with another is

Introducing Feminine Power

Introducing Feminine Power

There's a reason storms are named for women. Feminine power is an intimate connection with the divine. It's the ability to feel love and anger at the same time. To feel any number of things at the same time. To move mountains- maybe not physical ones but the massive emotional ones that crush the unprepared and leave many in feelings of hopelessness. To embrace feminine power is to embrace the power to ignite feelings of love and passion and devotion in anyone- just by expressing the truth in your own heart and soul. It is to understand, forgive, and love oneself knowing all vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and shortcomings. 

How to actually apply the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction, in this application, is the idea that the energy we give off attracts the same level energy back to us. So when we are resentful, fearful, and restrictive, we attract restrictive energy into our life- in many forms. 

However, when we are living in light and love, existing completely in a space of expansiveness and joy and abundance, we attract that same expansiveness back into our lives.