How To Recognize and Grow Your Core Self

Hey there,

so if you’ve been here a bit you already know this but I think we need to clarify just in case! I am a firm believer that we are all one in that we each have a unique core state of being that is nothing but pure love and expansiveness.

I think the real struggle of life is peeling away the layers of what is not this core self in order to let your true expansive self shine through.

So how can you do that?

The first step…

…is to learn how to recognize your core self! There’s a difference between ego and that expansive loving core inside of you who has such pure intentions.

If you haven’t been part of the personal development world before now, you might be just starting to notice the many aspects of yourself that create the person you are in the present moment. If that’s the case, you’re in for such an incredible journey and I’m so excited that you’re getting started!

If you’ve been doing this for a while, this step of recognizing your core self should be a little bit easier!

Here are some ideas to help you recognize your core self and differentiate between intuition and ego:

  • Take a walk and set an intention to notice every beautiful thing along the way. When you get home, take some time to write down 23 beautiful things you noticed and what was so beautiful about it. Were they tangible items? Dogs? People? Vehicles? The sky? Notice what draws your attention, and just spend some time reflecting on how your presence felt throughout the walk.

  • Journal it out. (You knew I was going to say this, right?)
    Seriously, journal through what’s been on your mind. Ask yourself questions like what your top priorities are in life, what you value most, where you show love and intention most (or least) effectively, etc.

    If you’re experiencing a lot of resistance with these exercises, check out this post about releasing resistance (it includes journal prompts to help you work through what’s really holding you back beneath the surface).

Now that you’ve started taking steps to recognize yourSELF,

start taking steps to grow that self as well! You can do this by reflecting back on those areas where you most effectively live out your loving intentions and are most easily able to feel expansive and open. Make an effort to spend more time in these areas of your life and with the people or places that bring you to that expansive, loving state of being where you are able to be fully present and expressive of your core self.

You want it to become a habit to live in that expansive state, so that it’s no longer something you are aspiring and growing toward, but instead it’s your natural resting state!

(Don’t get me wrong, there’s always room to grow and learn more- but that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to live in a joyful and expansive state as your resting state of being, you know? If your resting state of being, your default, is kinda blah at the moment or if it’s stressed out or exhausted or on edge, this is exactly what I’m talking about shifting!)

Another way you can grow your core self is by starting a conversation.

I’m totally recommending you talk to yourself- no shame!

Look, your core is already there. That’s the whole point. It’s your CORE. It’s who you are beneath all the layers and dust and extra stress and drama and attachments and all of the things!

So if you want to get to know that part of yourself better and get her to come around more and break out of that shell, maybe you just need to invite her along! Get intentional about connecting with your loving core so that you start a new relationship with yourself- this time one that isn’t just critical or limiting… but expansive instead!!

Start the conversation any time you like, but bring it up again often and see if you can connect with your loving core in moments of strong emotions when you feel limited, hopeless, or frustrated. You’ll be surprised what that expansive core has to say in those moments- I always am!

And for one final tip…

I want to remind you to be gentle with yourself. This is a lifelong journey. Your relationship with yourself doesn’t end, all your life! You’ll always be with yourself, you know? So roll with it. Let it take time, let it be easy, let it be fun. Let yourself be right where you are, let yourself be learning, let yourself be just beginning or even somewhere in the middle.

Embrace yourself exactly as you are, where you are, with all that you are today. You are worth it, I promise.

With love,

Jessica Peña