When Your Intuition Was Wrong | How to Trust Yourself Again.
Have you ever trusted your gut, only to find out later you were completely wrong? It’s hard to come back from that feeling of betrayal and embarrassment when you relied on your intuition and it seemed to fail… but it’s not impossible (and it’s worth it!)…
It’s important to be resilient in our trust for ourselves, because our intuition really is such an incredible tool and it’s a direct connection with our most loving and expansive core selves.
I want to share a couple considerations for you when it comes to rebuilding self-trust and faith in your intuition, and I want to share a few tips that I used to grow my own connection with my intuitive instincts.
First, I want you to think about when your intuition let you down.
How recent was it? If the incident was recent (or if your feelings around it are still tender and unresolved), I want you to consider this: what if it’s not over yet?
Maybe your intuition actually was right, and it was guiding you toward an outcome you truly desire for your future… and maybe the scene just hasn’t finished playing itself out yet. Maybe there’s another conversation that needs to be had, or another epiphany in your near future that brings it full circle.
Maybe someone needs to walk into or out of your life in order for you to be able to see the situation clearly from the distance of someone who is looking back, rather than looking at it from the middle of the chaos.
Before you declare your intuitive decision a failure or judge your instincts based on the outcome of a specific situation, make sure the situation has fully resolved and come full circle. If it hasn’t, you can’t truly see if your intuition guided you well or not.
Sometimes it’s just too soon to judge, so set it aside for a while and come back to reflect later. You might be surprised to learn that your intuition was spot on!
Now, as for rebuilding trust in your intuitive instincts…
There are lots of ways you can work on rebuilding trust with yourself- or building that trust for the first time if you’re pretty new to opening up to your intuition.
Here are a couple ideas to get you started.
1| Write a Letter
Write a letter to your future self, that version of you who is living your dream life, and let her know you’ve committed to following your intuition and that you are so grateful to her for all the years that she followed through on your commitment in order to create the life she is currently living. Imagine what her life looks like, and pull examples out of her life that prove she listened to her intuition to get there.
This is kind of like showing gratitude for what you want before you have it, and inviting it to fully manifest in your life. It’s a lot of fun, especially if you like to daydream about an incredible future for your life.
2| start making decisions.
It’s time to hand the reigns back over to your intuition, even if only a little bit at a time. Start letting your intuition take over in easy ways that aren’t likely to have major consequences.
As you gain confidence, increase the importance of the decisions you allow your intuition to decide on. This is especially helpful when you are first getting to know your intuition.
3| Learn to really listen to your Intuition
If you have a tough time knowing what voice or pull is your intuition talking, I have a tip for you there too.
Ask yourself: What is the most loving, purely ME thing I could do in this situation? What feels most expansive to me in this moment? Or, what would my very best self do in this situation?
I take a deep breath, close my eyes, put my hand on my heart, and as I exhale, I ask these questions. I usually ask just the first question, and if I don’t get a clear response, I’ll move down the list.
Over time, it gets a lot easier to tap into that intuitive response and, if you practice this every single day, it will quickly become your natural instinct to hear and apply your intuitive wisdom in every situation.
My final piece of advice for you is this:
Be gentle with yourself.
We are human beings. We are, by definition, imperfect. We are perfectly imperfect, in that our imperfections, flaws, and mistakes are a part of the journey of life that we each have the opportunity to live. Failure is a wonderful teacher, and sometimes there is abundance and beauty even in loss and wrongness.
If your intuition truly didn’t serve you in a situation, I invite you to give yourself a loving break. Embrace your own humanness, soak in the fresh dose of humility, and get back on the path to living your best life. This world didn’t stop turning because your intuition didn’t have precisely the result you wanted, so don’t let your whole life stop on account of that either.
You’ve got this! Shake it off and keep on goin’ girl.